Gratitude! The best nourishment for Brain

Fight Depression.. Fight anxiety!!

It’s a strange time we are living in right now!!  Where people who have the most, feel like they have the least. People who have the most reasons to be happy seems to have the least amount of happiness. Why is this? Is it “Comparison”? Comparing yourself to everyone who has more in this social media world we live in. Never feeling enough, because someone else will always be better than us.

Comparison is the thief of joy.

Never compare yourself to others. It doesn’t matter how great you are, if you are not GRATEFUL, for whom you are and what you have, you’ll never be happy. There’s always going to be someone who has more money than you, there will always be someone doing better than you. Someone fitter than you, better looking than you.  If you are always comparing yourself, you’ll always lose.

One thing other people will never have over you, THEY ARE NOT YOU.

Your greatest asset is that you are unique. And when you are FREE to be exactly as you are, that is the greatest way to live. The less you care about others, the happier you will be. Unhappiness and depression comes from when you focus on what you don’t have. Instead, if we appreciate what we do have and focus on where we want to be, we can feel better almost instantly. Appreciation and gratitude is the single most powerful way out of depression and any low states. You cannot feel both deep gratitude and negativity at the same time. If you can, you not FEELING the gratitude.  You might be saying you are grateful but you could not be feeling it. Because science shows that gratitude and depression do not go together.

Another important principle that helps many, who suffer from depression and anxieties, is this. They are almost certainly in every case, not necessarily are suffering from it all the time. They have selective anxiety, selective depression.  There are moments of laughter, hopefulness for the future, brief moments of happiness, connection with others, brief moments of love, and feeling good.

“I can only be happy if x y z occurs in my life!” Having rules like I can only be happy if.. will always ensure unhappiness. Because  LIFE always throws CHALLENGES and obstacles your way. Keeping this in mind, you can actually understand on an intellectual level that depression and anxiety do not have to be permanent. You can figure out why you feel down, by learning about how your brain works and you can direct it to something which feels much better long term.

Comparison is another big issue, especially during these days with extensive usage of social media, the amazing revelation of filters. Filters that make you look like a supermodel in one swipe, but those filters also applies in the lives, like exaggerating everything in their life, to make themselves bigger and better and leaving out all the negative things that are really causing them pain.

The happiest people on earth do not compare themselves with others. They run their own race and they are happy for all others to run theirs in their own time and their own way. Happy people don’t have the best of everything; they make the best of everything. Things will never work out as PLANNED. This is life, not a movie. How you respond to things will determine the quality of your life.

So, change your thoughts and change your life. Use the pain for the greater benefit. The key principle in overcoming depression is not to focus on depression but focus on what you want to be, the person you want to become, and do things that you must do to become that person.  Feel how you would feel if everything in your life fell in place. Create a compelling future, a greater purpose for your life. If you are genuinely excited about your future, you can’t be miserable now. The thing which keeps one going is having A SENSE OF FUTURE. The thing that tears us down is not having one. Set meaningful goals and head working towards something that excites you. Focus on whom you will help after creating this amazing life for yourself.

We are all creatures of the Creator, his superpower is controlling us. This articulation is an effort to strengthen the loose connection in our Faith towards his good intentions. His favors will never leave us unattended. The writer doesn’t try to self proclaim about himself but urges the readers to add their valuable thinking which can help mankind.

Wishing each one a happier, healthier, purposeful, grateful , and fulfilling life!!Written By: Dr. Khadija Tapiya